Belated
Happy New Year! It is amazing how easily one can get sidetracked. My son developing chickenpox on
New Year's Day was just enough to send all my plans out of the window.
So
here I am now with this question for you: have you made your New Year’s
resolution? If so are you still on
track? Or have old patterns got you sidetracked too.
Does
your resolution sound something like: stop smoking, stop eating so much
chocolate, stop this or that. If not, that's great. You problem you already
know all about setting SMART goals.
If
they do, then unfortunately you are unlikely to succeed. There are too many
reasons to explain why in this blog. However, one of the main reasons is that
when you focus on the thing you don't want, (like not smoking,) your brain just
focuses on the smoking and so wants more of it.
The
unconscious mind can’t recognise a negative. For example: if I say to you: don't
think of the pink elephant with a blue tutu and a red umbrella, dancing on a
tightrope; this was the very image you had in your mind, even though, I said,
don't think about it! If the brain
can't think about the elephant then it has far too many other options and can't
decide which other thing to think about, so it just keeps thinking about the
pink elephant. However, if I say, think of the hippopotamus in a muddy hole you
think of that instead of the pink elephant.
So if
you want your resolutions to succeed, think about what it is you will gain from
your particular action. Think of how you will feel, what you will be able to
do, what will change in your life. Then think about what you need to start
doing in order to make that happen.
If
you're resolution is to have a healthier and more relaxed life, then here are
some questions to help you.
Reduce stress questionnaire
Which 3 areas of my life do I
feel cause me most stress?
Give each area a score out of 10
(10 being the greatest stress)
When I feel stressed, it leaves
you with the following symptoms emotions or moods: ….
I allow myself time to relax and
unwind: True or false
If false, what gets in the
way? Do you feel
guilty for taking time to you ? Yes / No
The way in witch I relax is: …….
I allow myself to do this once a
week/ month/ quarter/ year?
When I do this, I feel
completely peaceful and relaxed?
If not then what does leave you
feeling relaxed and peaceful?
(If you don’t know check out relaxation workshop on my events page)
What could you change about your
3 areas of stress to help you be more relaxed?
Could you have an hour away from
your responsibilities and have time just for you at least one a week?
What are you willing to do, to
make your life more peaceful?
How would you feel if you made
those changes?
Is it worth it?
I really do hope so, and I hope
you can commit to making it happen.
Remember as Ralph Waldo
Emerson said "We
become what we think about all day long."
If you are not sure where to begin or how to set your
goals then book a free 30 min Body-Mind Coaching taster session to see how I
can help you.
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Julie by phone or email
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