Language tip to remember things and get what you want!

Of course this is what many people say. This is because the brain does not recognise a negative. In the same way you can't not think of a pink elephant, you can't not forget. You can think of a blue one instead but this is not the same as not thinking of a pink one. 

If you want to 'not forget' you need to tell your brain what you actually want it it do which is to remember and be specific about when you want to remember. 

When we do remember it is important that we acknowledge our brain for what it has accomplished i.e. what we have asked it to do and remembered something. 

However most of the time we beat it up about it and say, Oh I forgot..... actually no, you have just remembered! If you keep telling a child off, every time it does what you asked it to do (just not at the time you want, because you did not specify a time) then it will give up even remembering so that it doesn't get told off.   Tell yourself I need to remember to do/get such and such before I go to or before and give a specific time. 

So remember, be kind to yourself all the time, there are plenty of people out there ready to put you down, you don't need to do it to yourself.

The secrets of language!

Watch the video for a different take on the use of language.
I help client re-phrase their desired outcomes or goals from sessions as they often don't know how to phrase what they really want. They can tell me what they don't want and this makes it difficult for them to achieve their real desired goal. Language is very powerful so watch what you say and what it really means.  For example, I don't think of what I do as work but as play, in the way that a child learns through play and exploration. This is because work implies effort and this is the opposite of what I want to achieve in the muscles when I want them to relax, I want softness, ease and freedom.
When you understand how the everyday language you use can keep you trapped in a life you don't fully want and begin to re-phrase things, it is much easier to change it.  It does take awareness discipline though to stop saying things like "I want a break" and say "I want a rest" instead.

Enjoy observing yourself and let me know what phrases or words you used and how you have changed them. If you don't know how to change them let me know in the comment box below and I will see if I can come up with something for you. Have fun!