Discover ways to ease pain and strain 4 Talk Demonstrations

 If you are not sure whether what I do might help you then why not come along to one or all of these talks and you'll find out.

 Learn simple movements and techniques you can use,

in your everyday life, to improve your well-being.

 16th March 8pm - Releasing stress, anger, frustration, guilt and fear

Demonstration of EMDR and self help techniques that will help you unwind and really release the tension in your body. This will help you regain energy and sleep better too.

13th April 8pm- Feet, balance and walking

Our feet enable us to do so many things yet we often take them for granted. They are the basis of good balance and when used correctly for walking (it is easy to tell if you are by looking at the soles of you shoes and see if they wear evenly) are powerful tools for self healing. Having happy feet can make you fell happy too!

 20th April 8pm - Neck and shoulders,

For most people tension is held in the shoulders and causes pain in the neck and headaches.  Many people stretch their arms forward to ease the tension yet this is the opposite of what you need to do to solve shoulder pain and tension.  Find out how to ease tension and improve round shouldered posture easily and without going to the gym.

27th April 8pm - Releasing the jaw.

Jaw tightness can cause headaches, tinnitus, sinus problem among other things.

Talks will last 1 1/2 to 2 hours depending on questions. 

Places limited to 8 so booking is essential.

£3.50 per person per talk or
£5 for either 2 people or 2 talks booked.

Venue: Natural Therapy Centre, 5 Bibury Road, Swindon, SN3 1DD
Free parking in the street.

 Feel the joy of a stress less life.

 To book or for more information and one to one sessions

Julie Nicholls 01793 495551   Julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk

Powerful questions to help you get clarity

Just saw a quote by Einstein which said: 'the important thing is not to stop questioning'

It is important though to ask the right kind of questions though!
Open ones rather than closed ones- i.e: ones that don't just have a yes or no answer.
Also I usually say don't ask questions starting with why, because we often don't know why (especially children) and even knowing why may not solve the issue.

I have noticed that when I am asked: 'why did you ....',  I immediately feel attacked, it feels like I have done something wrong and I need to justify my actions.  Being asked why I left the drawer open again, will just make me respond because I hadn't finished and was going to put the thing back I got out of there. This does not help the person who asked the question feel any better about it, nor does it help me change the behaviour that is obviously irritating the other person. By this time we are both defending our own position and an argument may arise.

If the person asked themselves what is it about the drawer being left open that irritates me, then they might find out they feel it is dangerous. Then they could say they would feel safer and more comfortable if I shut the drawer even if I am coming back later. This then doesn't sound like an attack and I am much more likely to respond favourably to the request.

Questions beginning with where, when, how, what will give you a much better idea of what is going on in the other person.
For example:
how does.. affect... what you do
how often does this occur,
when does such and such. occur,
what makes .....happen.

Here are some questions I ask clients that might help you understand more about what is affecting the way you feel.

When does it happen?
When is it worse?
When is it better?
How long have you felt this?
When did you first experience this?
What is it you would like instead?
Where were you when you first felt that way?
What helped you then?
Can you use that now?
If not then what else could help you?
What might stop you from doing that?
How can you overcome that?

Well I hope that just going through these questions has already helped you and if you want more then let me know, you don't have to struggle on your own, face to face or skype sessions are available, .

Ease pain and strain talk demonstrations

Body~Mind Coaching 4 Talk Demonstrations

Learn simple movements and techniques you can use, in your everyday life, to improve your well-being

 

16th March 8pm -Releasing stress, anger, frustration
Demonstration of Trager, EMDR and self help techniques.

13th April 8pm- Feet, balance and walking

Having happy feet can make you fell happy too!

20th April 8pm - Neck and shoulders, 

Easing tension and improving round shouldered posture.

27th April 8pm - Releasing the jaw. 

Jaw tightness can cause headaches, tinnitus, sinus problem among other things.

Talks will last 1 1/2 to 2 hours depending on questions

£3.50 per person per talk or

£5 for either 2 people or 2 talks booked in advance.

Venue: Natural Therapy Centre, 5 Bibury Road, Swindon, SN3 1DD 

Free parking in the street   Places limited to 10

Feel the joy of a stress less life.

To book or for more information and one to one sessions

Julie Nicholls  01793 495551    julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk

www.body-mind-coaching.co.uk

 

Let me know what topic you would like me to give a talk on.

What Makes You Happy?

What is getting in the way of you being really happy?
It is not things...
This very clear article talks more about happiness.

You and Me with Tea: What Makes You Happy?:   In our last chat You and Me with Tea: What Does it Mean to Be Free? : we discussed the glaring issues that are arising in the world ...

If you would like help with letting go of all the stuff  in you head and heart that is getting in the way of you being happy then give me a call on 01793 495551 or  contact me for a free 30 min exploration of how I might be able to help you.

It's your age! Or is it?.....

As another year passes, is it really our years that determines how well we are?

 Many clients come to me and tell me that their problem is due to their age.  If it is a knee problem for example then I have the following story to tell them: an 70 year old lady goes to the doctor with knee pain on her right side.  The doctor says well it's your age!  She sais, well my left knee is the same age and that doesn't hurt!

Research is showing more and more that what we think, how we perceive ourselves (often based on how others see us), which is what we believe, affects our well being and our physical health. Even to the point that it affects our age.

This body - mind connection is well known in the use of the placebo effect but those of the nocebo effect are much more powerful in my view.

As the article below mentions becoming mindful not of our breathing but of our thoughts, habits and what we have accepted to be true so far without questioning is the way forward for all our health.

This is key to my Body~Mind Coaching sessions.  I ask lots of questions and offer different perspectives that make my clients think (making them more mindful) and that can help them change their expectations of how well they could really feel. The process also helps them feel physically different which can re-enforce a new belief about themselves that feeling better is possible.

Read more about the studies and the fascinating results on perceived age, eyesight, the immune system and general well being.

So you might want to ask yourself: what am I ready to question, challenge and let go of to make next year the one where you turn your life around and live to your full potential?  

If you can do that on your own that that is brilliant, if you want help with the process then contact me and I would be happy to go through it with you.  Have a happy New Year and a fantastic 2015!

Do you want to feel heard!

Do you feel you children, partner, work colleagues, parents are not listening to the advice you are giving them? Here is a helpful article I came across today. If you want even more, then you might want to read Non violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg or watch this interview and more of his videos.    Are You “Should-ing” All Over Everyone? 3 Easy Ways for People to Take On Your Advice “Now, what you should do is…”  “Well, it’s obvious, you should do this, then you should do that and then you should tell them you’ve done it”. Should do.  What you should do and what you want to and actually do are often very different things.  Even if the advice we’ve been given is spot on, the fact that we’ve been told we ‘should’ do it is often the very reason we don’t follow it or take it on.  So if that’s the reaction we have, it’s the reaction that others will have when we ‘should’ all over them.  Hmmm. There’s something innately irritating to be told we should be doing something.  It implies – this is the subtle, savvy part to understand – it implies that we’re not doing something right and that the other person is wiser that we are.  It’s implicit that we’ve missed a trick and they haven’t.  That they know better exactly what will work for us. Grrrrr.  That's the feeling that so often comes up.  Well, in reality, we know best – better than anyone – what works for us and as we all know, making a decision ourselves and then sticking to it is always more powerful than carrying out other people’s advice.  We own the outcome and, as such, are responsible for the result. (Or, in this case, response-able). One of the big pieces of being an influential business woman at work is putting across your ideas, suggestions, or advice and letting the other person decide for themselves how, and/or if, it will work for them.  It then becomes their decision, their action.  This principle applies just as effectively, if not more so, at home with our families and friends!  How many times have you said "Oh, you should just say.." at home and been met with a bored or stoney face? So, how do you get across your idea, suggestion, advice without 'shoulding' all over people by saying “what you should do is” or “I think you should…”? Here are 3 quick and easy ways which work, for you to try out: Start with “I’ve got an idea for you..” – this way you’re putting out that it’s only an idea and it’s for you to contemplate and understand if and how it will work.  By saying “I’ve got” you’re telling the other person “OK, I’m ready with something that I think you’ll want but it’s up to you what you do with it”. Say “Can I make a suggestion here?” – again, you’re putting across that you have something to offer and you want to get their buy-in before you just throw it at them.  9 times out of 10, if you’ve read the situation and your relationship correctly, the other person will say “yes please”.  Think aloud – “hmmm, that’s tricky, now I wonder if…” – you can hear (and feel) that you’re firstly empathising that they have an issue or something tricky going on ie, they’re not an idiot – and saying “I wonder if” is a pensive, non-confrontational way of offering your thought or suggestion. As with all of the 3 ideas above, avoiding the ‘should’ word once you start with these phrases is crucial.  Remember, by offering your thoughts in a less fixed way, you leave the other person open to taking on what you think but without your judgement (intentional or otherwise) behind it. So, can I make a suggestion here? Try these phrases on for size the next time you feel yourself about to say “well, you should” or “oh, it’s obvious, what you should do is…” You’ll notice the difference in how easily the other person's take on what you think and if they ignore you then at least they know you contributed your thoughts. Just like Snowy, my husband does, when it comes to my cooking - they have two choices. Take it. Or leave it. I bet they’ll take it more often than not!

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What happens if you surrender

Surrendering does not mean giving up! With Body~Mind Coaching you experience what it feels like to surrender the weight of your arm for example and discover how much freer it feels and how you can then move it further and with less pain. This is one of the ways Body Mind Coaching is very different to massage. This enables you to take the benefits of the session home with you and benefit for much longer. 

I hope you enjoy this 10 min video where Eckhart Tolle talks about what surrender means in practical terms.
 


Have you ever surrendered and had an amazing experience because of it?  I would love to hear your story and sharing it with others might help them surrender more and help you trust you can do it more often.