Language tip to remember things and get what you want!

Of course this is what many people say. This is because the brain does not recognise a negative. In the same way you can't not think of a pink elephant, you can't not forget. You can think of a blue one instead but this is not the same as not thinking of a pink one. 

If you want to 'not forget' you need to tell your brain what you actually want it it do which is to remember and be specific about when you want to remember. 

When we do remember it is important that we acknowledge our brain for what it has accomplished i.e. what we have asked it to do and remembered something. 

However most of the time we beat it up about it and say, Oh I forgot..... actually no, you have just remembered! If you keep telling a child off, every time it does what you asked it to do (just not at the time you want, because you did not specify a time) then it will give up even remembering so that it doesn't get told off.   Tell yourself I need to remember to do/get such and such before I go to or before and give a specific time. 

So remember, be kind to yourself all the time, there are plenty of people out there ready to put you down, you don't need to do it to yourself.

Get the spring back in your step - Feet and walking workshop

Do you find walking difficult or painful?

Walking is part of our every day life.  It can be a joy but for some it is a dread and feels like a burden, a chore because of the pain or discomfort it causes, not just in the feet but in many other areas of the body, knees, hips, back.  Walking well also has a powerful effect on our general health and wellbeing

Discover how you can help yourself  with simple movements and techniques you can use in your everyday life to help you re-discover the joy of walking.

During this workshop you will:

Find out how you are actually walking, even if you think you are walking properly you might be surprised. You will be able to see how you are walking and what you are doing that is contributing to your discomfort and begin to correct this.

Practice some ways to relax you feet, how to ease aching  sore feet, including massaging your feet (even if you can't reach them), make them more comfortable so that walking becomes a pleasure.

Discover how you can improve your balance.

Explore how your thinking affects your balance and walking.

At the end of this workshop you will see how your walking has changed and know how to walk with more ease and comfort.

Suitable for everyone! Whatever your level of fitness or unfitness, wellness or illness.
No experience of any form of exercise required. Wear warm, loose, comfortable clothing.

When: 20th June  2015 1.15pm to 4.30
Where: Integral Yoga Centre, 12 Stratton Road, Stratton, SN3 4PU
Investment: £38 Booking is essential as numbers are limited to 8.
Book by 20th May : £3 off
Bring a friend: get £3 off      Book for yourself and a friend by 20th May: Save £9!
AND save min £100 on cost of learning this in a private sessions.

To book contact Julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk or 01793 495551

Enjoy walking and improve your wellbeing.

Warning this could change your life!

If you are interested in this but can't make the date, let me know as I am planning a

'Secrets of natural walking TM' workshop later in the year.

To book or for more information and private sessions contact

Julie Nicholls 01793 495551 Julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk

www.body-mind-coaching.co.uk   www.facebook.com/BMChealth

Discover ways to ease pain and strain 4 Talk Demonstrations

 If you are not sure whether what I do might help you then why not come along to one or all of these talks and you'll find out.

 Learn simple movements and techniques you can use,

in your everyday life, to improve your well-being.

 16th March 8pm - Releasing stress, anger, frustration, guilt and fear

Demonstration of EMDR and self help techniques that will help you unwind and really release the tension in your body. This will help you regain energy and sleep better too.

13th April 8pm- Feet, balance and walking

Our feet enable us to do so many things yet we often take them for granted. They are the basis of good balance and when used correctly for walking (it is easy to tell if you are by looking at the soles of you shoes and see if they wear evenly) are powerful tools for self healing. Having happy feet can make you fell happy too!

 20th April 8pm - Neck and shoulders,

For most people tension is held in the shoulders and causes pain in the neck and headaches.  Many people stretch their arms forward to ease the tension yet this is the opposite of what you need to do to solve shoulder pain and tension.  Find out how to ease tension and improve round shouldered posture easily and without going to the gym.

27th April 8pm - Releasing the jaw.

Jaw tightness can cause headaches, tinnitus, sinus problem among other things.

Talks will last 1 1/2 to 2 hours depending on questions. 

Places limited to 8 so booking is essential.

£3.50 per person per talk or
£5 for either 2 people or 2 talks booked.

Venue: Natural Therapy Centre, 5 Bibury Road, Swindon, SN3 1DD
Free parking in the street.

 Feel the joy of a stress less life.

 To book or for more information and one to one sessions

Julie Nicholls 01793 495551   Julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk

Powerful questions to help you get clarity

Just saw a quote by Einstein which said: 'the important thing is not to stop questioning'

It is important though to ask the right kind of questions though!
Open ones rather than closed ones- i.e: ones that don't just have a yes or no answer.
Also I usually say don't ask questions starting with why, because we often don't know why (especially children) and even knowing why may not solve the issue.

I have noticed that when I am asked: 'why did you ....',  I immediately feel attacked, it feels like I have done something wrong and I need to justify my actions.  Being asked why I left the drawer open again, will just make me respond because I hadn't finished and was going to put the thing back I got out of there. This does not help the person who asked the question feel any better about it, nor does it help me change the behaviour that is obviously irritating the other person. By this time we are both defending our own position and an argument may arise.

If the person asked themselves what is it about the drawer being left open that irritates me, then they might find out they feel it is dangerous. Then they could say they would feel safer and more comfortable if I shut the drawer even if I am coming back later. This then doesn't sound like an attack and I am much more likely to respond favourably to the request.

Questions beginning with where, when, how, what will give you a much better idea of what is going on in the other person.
For example:
how does.. affect... what you do
how often does this occur,
when does such and such. occur,
what makes .....happen.

Here are some questions I ask clients that might help you understand more about what is affecting the way you feel.

When does it happen?
When is it worse?
When is it better?
How long have you felt this?
When did you first experience this?
What is it you would like instead?
Where were you when you first felt that way?
What helped you then?
Can you use that now?
If not then what else could help you?
What might stop you from doing that?
How can you overcome that?

Well I hope that just going through these questions has already helped you and if you want more then let me know, you don't have to struggle on your own, face to face or skype sessions are available, .

Ease pain and strain talk demonstrations

Body~Mind Coaching 4 Talk Demonstrations

Learn simple movements and techniques you can use, in your everyday life, to improve your well-being

 

16th March 8pm -Releasing stress, anger, frustration
Demonstration of Trager, EMDR and self help techniques.

13th April 8pm- Feet, balance and walking

Having happy feet can make you fell happy too!

20th April 8pm - Neck and shoulders, 

Easing tension and improving round shouldered posture.

27th April 8pm - Releasing the jaw. 

Jaw tightness can cause headaches, tinnitus, sinus problem among other things.

Talks will last 1 1/2 to 2 hours depending on questions

£3.50 per person per talk or

£5 for either 2 people or 2 talks booked in advance.

Venue: Natural Therapy Centre, 5 Bibury Road, Swindon, SN3 1DD 

Free parking in the street   Places limited to 10

Feel the joy of a stress less life.

To book or for more information and one to one sessions

Julie Nicholls  01793 495551    julie@body-mind-coaching.co.uk

www.body-mind-coaching.co.uk

 

Let me know what topic you would like me to give a talk on.

What Makes You Happy?

What is getting in the way of you being really happy?
It is not things...
This very clear article talks more about happiness.

You and Me with Tea: What Makes You Happy?:   In our last chat You and Me with Tea: What Does it Mean to Be Free? : we discussed the glaring issues that are arising in the world ...

If you would like help with letting go of all the stuff  in you head and heart that is getting in the way of you being happy then give me a call on 01793 495551 or  contact me for a free 30 min exploration of how I might be able to help you.

It's your age! Or is it?.....

As another year passes, is it really our years that determines how well we are?

 Many clients come to me and tell me that their problem is due to their age.  If it is a knee problem for example then I have the following story to tell them: an 70 year old lady goes to the doctor with knee pain on her right side.  The doctor says well it's your age!  She sais, well my left knee is the same age and that doesn't hurt!

Research is showing more and more that what we think, how we perceive ourselves (often based on how others see us), which is what we believe, affects our well being and our physical health. Even to the point that it affects our age.

This body - mind connection is well known in the use of the placebo effect but those of the nocebo effect are much more powerful in my view.

As the article below mentions becoming mindful not of our breathing but of our thoughts, habits and what we have accepted to be true so far without questioning is the way forward for all our health.

This is key to my Body~Mind Coaching sessions.  I ask lots of questions and offer different perspectives that make my clients think (making them more mindful) and that can help them change their expectations of how well they could really feel. The process also helps them feel physically different which can re-enforce a new belief about themselves that feeling better is possible.

Read more about the studies and the fascinating results on perceived age, eyesight, the immune system and general well being.

So you might want to ask yourself: what am I ready to question, challenge and let go of to make next year the one where you turn your life around and live to your full potential?  

If you can do that on your own that that is brilliant, if you want help with the process then contact me and I would be happy to go through it with you.  Have a happy New Year and a fantastic 2015!